Making The Time

I'm really struggling with this lately and it's hard to be on the end where you feel like your friends have just not made time for you. This post isn't going to be encouraging, funny, but really more of a rant of I'm fed up.

My love languages, if you know me go in this order:

1. Physical touch
2. Quality time
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Words of Affirmation
5. Acts of Service

So for me, quality time is up there. I get it, people get busy, we have commitments but I firmly believe that you make the time for people you want in your life. So with that thought in mind, I started a venture in where I drew my involvement back to see who would actively seek my friendship when I wasn't putting myself into it as much. The purpose wasn't to push people away but make it known (to me) that when I wasn't trying was this friendship working.

After having done this for several weeks in some friendships I've really had more of a revelation in that, if you're not going to try I don't want you in my life. It's hard but at the same time, I felt like in many of those relationships I was putting so much effort in that I stopped feeling like it was a mutual friendship and turned into a one-sided one. With recent events, that feeling is fresh in my mind. If you're not going to put time into having a friendship with me, then there really isn't a friendship there anyways.

You can't be friends with everyone. You have to decide who you want in your life, you have to prioritize the relationships in your life. You have to make the time for those people if you want to keep them in your life. And if you're like me, one day you might just have to let some of those friendships go so that others can grow. It's hard and it hurts but sometimes that's what you have to do. So I leave you with this, make sure you make the time for the important people in your life because really that's what matters.